Saturday, May 15, 2010

Hey beautiful ladies!! :)

I hope you are all having a wonderful summer (even though it has only been a week)! Anyways, I thought I would try to have this blog come alive & I want advice on something..

Okay, well.. I guess I kind of like this guy. He works somewhere on campus and I used to go there all the time during his shift. I think by as many times as I went, he should recognize me by now. I added him on facebook a month ago and had 2 brief conversations with him through it. I have seen him around a lot but I never ever talked to him in person. He does seems like a decent guy and I would like to get to know him more. The problem is I feel like I have to initiate for it to happen.. is that a bad thing? I feel like the first few times I do not have a choice in the matter and I have no problem with that, really. I just do not want to creep him out and I do not want to seem like I am trying to hard to be friends with him.

I know this seems silly because it is summer and I am worrying about being friends with someone I barely know who is a year above me. I do not expect anything to happen, but I am hoping we can talk a bit this summer. What should I do and how should I approach this?

Thanks girls!! Love you!!


  1. I've definitely learned that guys can be pretty oblivious. But I've also learned that if they're not pursuing, then it's usually because they're not interested (at least in terms of a dating relationship). So, this is my advice, see what you think...

    I would ask him if he wants to hang out. This goes with the guys being oblivious part. I find it's sort of scary, because it gives the guy the opportunity to give an outright no. I know for me it's sometimes easier to try and drop hints and just make myself visible, because then if nothing happens I can usually convince myself that it's a million reasons other than just he's not interested! So, whether he's clueless or not really interested, directly asking him is a good way to find out! And, chances are, if you ask him to go to a movie or dinner or something in a big group, he won't say no. I guess that's another way to get to know him better - try to get him to hang out with you and your friends or if possible hang out with him and his friends!

    And if he says yes to the first hang out, and it's fun, try asking again!

    I guess that's really all I've got for now! Let me know what you think! I'm sort of hopped up on Sudafed (spelling?) right now, so maybe I'm not giving the best advice :)

  2. Lol! Thanks so much for the advice. I agree that guys can be so oblivious.. and he seems to be one of those. I don't know of i previously mentioned, but I kind of want a friendship with him if not a dating relationship, you know? I want him to think that I am just a friendly person who wants to talk to him and make a new friend if anything.

    Problem with the hanging out though. It's summer.. and he lives like 6 hours away from me. Should I continue to try to talk to him on facebook a few times and see where it goes? Or should I just forget about it? I don't know.. I am so confused. I kind of had a goal to exchange numbers at some point in the next 15 weeks.. (Lame, I know).

  3. I've been in similar situations this semester, and it's tough because you just want to get to know a guy without the awkwardness, and most of the time it's so hard to get around that. The best friendships in my experience though are the ones that aren't too forced. So for now, I'd say to take a step back with this one. Maybe facebook chat him a couple more times, but if he isn't initiating conversations with you or doesn't seem engaged, then wait until the fall. A lot of guys would rather get to know you in person first before they start talking online. Facebook can be so impersonal, and in the fall you can get the chance to introduce yourself and he can see your great personality! Plus, it will be easier to tell what you two have in common.

    On the other hand, if he does seem gung-ho for online chats, then roll with it!

  4. Hey! Thanks for the advice. That was really good. I agree with it. I mean, yeah, I do not see why it hurts to initiate and facebook chat him a few more times. I mean, if he did not want to talk to me when I initiated he wouldn't, right?? So maybe he is slightly interested in being friends. I think as long as he is responding, I'm okay. Now that I think about what you said though, I guess it is being a little bit forceful... but at the same time it's kind of hard because I want to get to know him, but I'm not really rushing it, persay. I'm trying to take it as slow as I possibly can and go from there. Time could only tell where this goes.